Karen Thomas Mind Coach

Learning How to Love Yourself

3rd June 2022

Can you honestly say that you love yourself? Are you having a hard time being happy with yourself? It is so easy to focus on your faults and everyone can dwell on their insecurities instead of the things about themselves that they are happy with. Doing this can cause you to dislike yourself. You may also be too busy focusing on others around you and not focusing on loving yourself. Some people don’t want to be alone and fear to do things on their own. This can really hinder your journey to self-love, as you have to learn to be comfortable being with yourself. So, keep reading to discover how to love yourself today.

Plus, we are going to take a look at some ways that you can fall in love with yourself to help you get started on your self-love journey. First, let’s take a look at why you need to love yourself.

This may seem more important to some than others, but self-love is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Being in love with yourself provides you with self-confidence, self-worth and it will generally help you feel more positive. You may also find that it is easier for you to fall in love once you have learned to love yourself first.

If you can learn to love yourself, you will be much happier and will learn how to best take care of yourself. When you are truly in love with yourself and happy, you should stop comparing yourself to others so much and should find yourself more confident, not worrying as much about what others think.

  1. Have Fun by Yourself

It’s always good to have a few days set by for yourself, that is just for you to do something fun. In doing this you can learn to enjoy your own company, and most likely feel more confident doing it on your own.

This could be, going to the cinema (after Covid) going on a date with yourself or finding new things to try.

  1. Travel Once A Year (After Lockdown)

This may be completely out of your comfort zone, but that is a good thing! If you can travel on your own, this will be a great self-love experience. You will be learning new things not only about yourself but also another culture. This also helps to bring you out of your normal routine.

  1. Forgive Yourself For Your Mistakes 

Reflecting on your mistakes can help you to forgive and forget. If you can look back at some poor choices you may have made, and forgive yourself, you can start to move on and forget about the past. Loving yourself despite any mistakes you made in the past is great for your self-worth.

  1. Surprise Yourself

Try things out of your control, and say yes to things you would not normally say yes to. This will also help you with getting to know yourself. You may find out that you enjoy things you never realized or tried before. Try and get out of your comfort zone and see what happens (it will most likely be positive!).

  1. Start a Journal

If you can write down your thoughts and feelings, you can go back at a later date and see how you coped with certain situations.

This is also a positive way for you to get rid of any negative experiences and feelings, helping you to focus on the good things and learn from the bad.

  1. Gratitude

Write down 10 things you are grateful for …e.g., family, health, nature, work, happiness, love, weather etc.

  1. Learn How to Love Yourself by Saying No to Others

Sometimes we do too much for people, we like to please other people, so we tend to stretch ourselves too thin and commit to everything we can. We can forget to look after ourselves sometimes, so that’s why it is good to say no. Focus on yourself when you can, or if you are overwhelmed.

  1. Make A List of Your Accomplishments

Creating a list of what you have achieved is a great way to fall in love with yourself. This makes you feel good about yourself, and find happiness from what you have accomplished. We can sometimes focus on the negatives and forget about the positives, so this is a great way to remind yourself of what you have achieved.

 

  1. Make A Vision Board

Visualizing your goals is a good way to feel motivated and excited about your future. You can focus on your dreams and start to love your life and yourself.

  1. Pursue New Interests

It’s great to try something new that you have wanted to try for a while, or have been too scared to do.

You never know what you might enjoy until you try it, so think of a new hobby you could try, or go to a place you’ve wanted to go to for a while.

  1. How to Love Yourself by Challenging Yourself

If you can challenge yourself, you will also be getting to know yourself and what you are capable of. Perhaps you are a singer, who sings as a hobby but has wanted to sing at a gig for years if you can take that leap and book a gig you will challenge yourself and feel much more confident or maybe you would just like to go on holiday by yourself.

Just go for it, and see what happens.

  1. Give Yourself A Break

We can be hard on ourselves sometimes, it’s natural, but you need to give yourself a break from time to time.

No one is perfect, and you can’t expect yourself to be so.

Certain things happen but you need to accept them and not be too hard on yourself. Try and put aside 30 minutes of your time, to completely relax. Having a break from the chaos of life is a great way to love and care for yourself. This could be having a bubble bath, reading a book or self-hypnosis … As you have learned hypnosis is a great way to relax.

  1. Give Yourself Credit Where Credit Is Due

Celebrate your achievements! Just like when you list your accomplishments, it’s good to actually celebrate your achievements. Tell others about what you have done, share your experience and be proud of what you have done. Give yourself the credit you deserve.

  1. Work on Your Self-Trust

A great way to show yourself self-love is to trust yourself and your own instincts.

You are most likely going to know what is best for you, and self-trust is a step to self-love.

You need to trust yourself before you can trust others, so listen to your gut and trust how you feel.

  1. Take Care of Yourself

This one probably seems obvious, but taking care of yourself plays a big part in learning how to love yourself, and a lot of people do not do it. If you take care of yourself, you will be the best version of yourself. Go out for a walk, the gym, have your hair, nails, feet, beard done….

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